Fuck Your Pinterest Wedding
Let me just start this out by saying that I love
Pinterest. I love pinning and looking at photos and finding all sorts of things
that inspire me. Pinterest is a force to be used for good to inspire and
showcase the work and love of all people.
Now, I’m sure you’ve been into the Pinterest wedding
tag, or perhaps you haven’t. If you have, you know that it’s a place full of
great ideas on how to plan your wedding, pictures of wedding dresses and in
general, a gathering of creative and innovative ideas for a wedding.
What no one tells you when you create your wedding
board (your mind is full of wonder and ideas) is that this can be a bad thing.
When I set out to plan my wedding, I had a few shaky ideas in mind. It was
cloudy and I wanted the moon in the process, but I had a few ideas.
Since then, I have at least 3 melt downs from these feelings that I’m making a
mistake with the choices in my wedding. I’m not the melt down type, but I am a
perfectionist. Since creating a Pinterest, I’ve laid awake on many a night
thinking that I’m ruining everything and that my wedding will be a disaster
because I like things to be trim down to the details in order to create a
harmony with an event such as a wedding. I want people to look at my wedding
pictures and know that I was able to create an event that perfectly sums up the
love that is happening between myself and the groom.
Let’s just be honest, I want to put my pictures up
on Pinterest and have people pin them for ideas for their own weddings. I want
the ‘oooh!’ and ‘aaaaaah!’ of knowing that I made the right choices.
This is where I’ve had to learn that I’ve gone
wrong. The weddings I’ve seen on Pinterest have all been beautiful. I’ve looked
at them with adoration and envy. I’ve looked at decked out ceremonies and boho
brides, and I’ve wanted to do all of them. But the problem is, I haven’t wanted
to do all of them because they showcase the important part of the wedding (you
know… the Bride and the Groom). I wanted to do them because they’re pretty.
Because they’d make good pictures. Because whatever I’m looking at (from a
flowery ceremony back drop to flower crowns to ethereal wedding dresses that
would never look good on my body) is most likely the latest trend in the
Wedding tag.
I lost focus, between deciding flowers and color
palettes, on what is important in the wedding. The fact that I’m marrying the
love of my life and that all of my family and friends will be there. Things
don’t have to be perfect. I don’t need to do every single DIY idea I see on
Pinterest or hire a million dollar photographer for my million dollar venue
(not that either of these things are bad, I just can’t feasibly afford them) to
be happy.
I don’t need a Pinterest wedding to be happy. I need
good food, family and friends, the dress (which I have) and, most of all, the
Groom. I need to finish the wedding playlist and hire a caterer to make sure
that we have something to eat. It’s
not about having the best photographer or showing off the handmade decorations
that I spent the summer creating. It’s about the union of myself to the coolest
person I’ve met and the celebration that follows.
